Sex Love, Class Love
I was reading the blog of one my most favorite UP professors, Danilo Arao, when I stumbled upon one of his Youngblood1 articles from twelve years ago, The Politics of Loving.
The article started off by relaying a true story of two Kabataang Makabayan2 members in love with each other, but as twisted luck has it, the woman is really a military agent. And we all know that activists and military agents don’t mix well together, right? Poor guy, arrested because his “imagination triumphed over [his] intelligence”, as what Henry Louis Mencken would say. Not conducting a very thorough SI of the girl’s class background? That’s…stupid. But that’s love, I guess. The story is written by Quijano de Manila, Nick Joaquin’s pen name in journalism.
Activists follow a very unique and, I must say, enjoyable process of courtship. It is, for me, more intense and sincere. It prefers class love over sex love. Relationship between two people is very important as it should ensure their growth as individuals (and as lovers, of course), and their growth as revolutionaries. And what do you know, activists are actually prohibited to have sex until marriage! *gasps* Yes, yes. Good thing I haven’t broken this rule.
Yet. 
The article makes me remember the day when my comrades and I were talking in Vinzon’s Hill, an elevated piece of land that looks like a, uhm, hill outside, uhm, Vinzon’s Hall. Our topic was activist/tri-athlete/TV personality Atom Araullo’s then-controversial love life. He admitted in local game show Game KNB? that he already has a girlfriend in Patty Laurel, which took us completely by surprise - not good. Then one mentioned that she couldn’t see herself going out with someone who’s not an activist. Everybody agreed with her, while I gave it a soulful thought.
And I’m still thinking about it.
It would be hard - no, make that really very hard - to commit with someone whose principles differ from mine. Someone who doesn’t believe in what I fight for. What if the guy tries to stop me from what I’m doing because he’s afraid I’d get hurt? He wouldn’t be able to completely understand the need for us people to be selfless. That in the revolution, the interests of the people come first before3 our own personal interests. We take every precaution there is, but sometimes things just get out of hand, especially during harsh dispersals. And so far, I think I’d rather not be with someone who’d always be at my throat and back for being what I was born to be: an activist.
Well, a retired activist, hehe.
I’m not particularly bothered about my singleness - it’s the people around me that are bothered by it. I know I never talk about this much (at all?), but I’m not ready for a commitment right now, especially after my tragic failed relationship more than a year ago. No, sire! I’m perfectly okay with the way things are going in my loveless life.
I just need someone to kiss go with later in the kissing fest, Lovapalooza 2007, to watch thousands of couples marking their properties with their saliva. I’m not partial to the “Kissing de Avance” march and rally though - sounds too stupid bizarre. But yeah, I’ll be going. Text Email me? Nyahehe!
// Rosas ng Digma: Mga Awit ng Pag-ibig at Pakikibaka. Listen to the songs. Trust me, they’re better than your regular love songs. Way, way better. 
Even my regular teenage friends are completely swept away by these songs. For those who cannot understand the Filipino language, there’s one song called I Could Have Said, which is my most favorite song in the album. Song song song. I suck. Deteriorating vocab and English skills alert!
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Hehe about being single… Well, I think I’m the opposite of you, ready for a commitment… But then again, I’ve never had a boyfriend before, so I don’t know… The single life is alright for me, but right now, I’d rather be in a relationship…. Hahhaha…
Heheheh about someone to go with you to the kissing fest! It’d be soo weird for me to go with some guy(a friend), and not be kissing them there… It’d just be REALLY awkward, so I wouldn’t want to go to that at all. LOL.
hey hon! sorry for my preious post–I just had another one of my “moments” –let’s call it that! hahahahaha
bt I feel better now. thanks for dropping by ha?
haha nkktuwa naman yun hey d ka nagiisa ako din naman havnt broken the rule
YET :s
WHOA, There is a kissing festival? I wonder what one of those fests feel like to go to.
Hey, thanks for checking my comments page
Everything is valid now. *will now rest* ;D
I’ll go with you to the Lovapalooza. Let’s go lesbo. (: Haha, just kidding.
huh? how come people around you get bothered by it? what’s wrong with being single? haha.
I’m okay now, Luke said I cried 7 times. 5 times yesterday.
i just hope I wont wake up in the middle of night anymore. Every scary thing I see on TV makes my heart beat so fast. thank god for friends like him. lol.
ate shari, in your post you’ve stated that activists cannot have sex until marriage. I guess this just proves one thing: the activist career of my philippine history is just a hoax! bwahahaha!
he told our class that he’d already have sex with a lot of girls. Most them were his comrades. Wow! How ironic. This guy is just a bluff.. a wannabe.. a hypocrite.
enjoy the lova-palooza
sorry off-topic ito ha, tag kita hehehe..
kung na tag ka na ng same question before, ignore it nalang
thanks!
argh. Atom was my crush. The last time i saw him on tv was on QTV’s “Moms”
‘pag nagsasalita siya, you will be like, “AWWWWW.” farking intelligent.
DIe patty die! jk. :P
I get what you’re saying. With my ex, we had different beliefs and interests, and I used to think that opposites did attract. Until we broke up. Now I know that my guy would need to have a lot in common with me.
Where’d you take your driving lessons? Your driving school sounds tough. =P
I agree that a relationship can grow better and have a greater chance of lasting when both parties share the same principles in life.
I hope that you’ll find the right man who shares what you believe in.
The Lovapalooza 2007 sounds like a very exciting event. Have fun and let us know how it goes.
Take care and enjoy the rest of the weekend.
Woah! Yan ba ang nagagawa ng wlang date sa valentine? Puro love/relationship/sex/marriage (O.o) entries? Ehehe…
I never had any interest with my professors so I do not have any idea regarding what they do when they were young.